"What makes me happy?" - a question lots of people ask themselves, and what do they end up deciding to do? Drink, hang out, devour sweets in unlimited quantities, and do nothing for months, or worse.
Isn't being healthy, self-sufficient, successful not happiness?
☝🏻Distinguish between true happiness and short-term pleasure. They are different concepts, and so are the results.
Listen to Yourself
When we are faced with the question of making a decision, we often have the answer in our head immediately - version number one, which miraculously you already know. This is the so-called inner voice that unconsciously awakens at the moment the dilemma arises.
Unfortunately, most of us are accustomed to listening to this voice. Perhaps trusting your intuition once got you into trouble, but now you've grown up, gained judgement, started weighing your arguments... In any case, by neglecting your intuition, you're giving up an important source of information.
✔️For the sake of a complete decision-making toolkit, bring your inner voice back to the table, because a good life is the result of a series of good decisions
All of us have to face different circumstances in life, whether it's health problems or job loss.
It is precisely at these times that your partner needs support and encouragement, even though these events can be a source of tremendous stress for you as well.
You don't need to portray an unfading optimism and hide your worries.
The most important thing is to be there for you and for your partner to feel that together you can overcome these difficulties.
💪🏻 Your confidence and support will not only reduce your partner's worries, but most likely will help him to mobilize all his resources to overcome the problem situation.
ANGER, RESENTMENT, HEALING
When you realize that your parents were wrong in your childhood, you become angry and resentful. Anger tells you that you disagree. Resentment tells you that you expect a different attitude. And as the first stage of healing, anger and resentment are very important. They show a discrepancy between what you were given and what you needed.
But if the healing goes on, you notice that even though you are an adult, you continue to behave as if someone is not treating you right. Replay the old pattern yourself.
Breaking this pattern involves letting go of anger and resentment. The disappearance of anger and resentment does not mean that your parents have stopped misbehaving. It means that you yourself have stopped behaving toward yourself the way your parents once did.
A mature person is like a ripe fruit.
For example, a pear.
The pear is not perfect, but it has no desire to become something else. It doesn't try to turn from a pear into a peach with the help of personal growth training. It doesn't pretend to be a banana, who is just out of shape today. Not torturing herself with newfangled diets to the size of a cherry. It doesn't tell tall tales about how she looked like a little tangerine as a child.
It accepts herself as a pear. Somewhere with a rottenness, somewhere with a tough skin, and somewhere with an appetizing barrel. And certainly a characteristic pear shape.
So is a mature man. He's not perfect. He has already fought with his nature, despaired, disappointed, humbled himself, accepted, studied and started to use that which is inherent in him. That is why it looks harmonious in all its manifestations. And that’s not only the result of experience, but also of choice.